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“Whatever the mind believes to be true and inevitable on a subconscious level will manifest into reality.” – Lisa Watson
Have you ever found yourself stuck in the same frustrating patterns in your relationships? Whether it’s with your mother, in-laws, kids, spouse, or even your boss, these dynamics can feel inescapable.
This week, I’m diving into a topic that has profoundly impacted my journey and the work I do with clients: THE LOOPS IN OUR RELATIONSHIPS.
I want to share how awareness to and understanding these patterns can lead to healthier, more liberated relationships or all kinds.👫
By recognizing these relationship patterns, we can transform how we interact with others and break free from cycles that no longer serve us. ✨
You might be the point of resolution for RELATIONSHIP PATTERNS in your family’s lineage—meaning:
Personal Story: Navigating Emotional Unavailability
Let me share a personal experience that illustrates how understanding and taking responsibility for these dynamics can transform our interactions. 
Recently, I was having coffee with a friend. During our conversation, I offered a bid for connection, sharing something personal and emotional—hoping for validation. 
Instead, she deflected, leaving me feeling unseen and unheard. This wasn’t the first time I have felt this way with this particular friend—it was It was a common occurrence. 
In the past, I might have tried to get her to validate me or express how it was hurtful that she didn’t.
However, the real, not-so-obvious reason I am in this relationship and have subjected myself to her invalidation is to reinforce the pattern of seeking approval and feeling invalidated (on a subconscious level).
This behavior within relationships has been the norm since my early childhood and is what feels ‘normal’ and safe to me.
This is how it works. This is why the loops continue. 
Now that I have this understanding and am committed to closing loops that no longer serve me, I chose a different path.
I recognized the familiar pattern and decided not to engage with it.
Rather than trying to dismantle the wall, I simply stopped right in front of it and then turned away, letting the moment be what it was—without judgment or feelings of victimization. Simply acceptance and observation.
This approach felt odd and even a bit empty at first. But in that space, I found freedom.
By not engaging with, or judging the pattern, I allowed it to lose its power over me. 
Recognize the Emotional Hook: Identify what initially attracts you to certain dynamics. 🧲
Examples:
– 🚫 Stop Engaging with Partial Presence: Disengage from relationships that require significant effort to maintain.
– 👁️ Shift from Potential to Presence: See people as they are, not as you hope they’ll become.
– 🌈 Accept Ease as Alignment: Relationships should not be hard – this includes family.
– 🌿 Let Absence of Struggle Be Your Baseline: Embrace stability as your new normal.
– 👀 Observing this process as it unfolds allows you to disrupt it.
The first step is identifying the emotional trigger—what draws you in before you’re even aware.
It might be a desire for approval, a sense of duty, fear of conflict, or expecting rejection. Once you identify the trigger, you can pause rather than react automatically. This pause is where the pattern begins to lose its grip.
Even if the other person tries to continue the loop, it won’t affect you in the same way. 
The usual dynamic feels off, like the script has changed. Over time, by not engaging as you used to, the pattern weakens. Relationships will either adjust to a new dynamic or fade away, as the old pattern is no longer reinforced.
Shifting from reaction to awareness changes the energy. Your goal is not to force a resolution but to see things clearly. Once a pattern is fully recognized, it loses its power. 
If someone is present, they are. If not, they aren’t. Their actions don’t control your emotional state because you’re no longer seeking meaning, validation, or certainty from the connection.
When someone leaves, it doesn’t feel like abandonment. If they stay, it doesn’t feel like gain. People move in and out of your life naturally, without force, struggle, or resistance.
However, the quality of the relationships will outweigh the quantity.
You may even find yourself quite alone while your hologram configures to the new coding, but trust me:
The only way to break the cycle of endless repetition is to acknowledge the patterns and choose a new path.
Final Thoughts
As I continue to work through these patterns in my relationships, I’ve come to see relationships as expressions of connection, not containers for unresolved energy. This shift has brought me depth and freedom in my relationships, allowing love to exist without conditions or expectations. 🌼
“What you lose as a result of being true to your authentic self is not a loss, IT IS ALIGNMENT!”
RELATIONSHIP STRUGGLES: YOU DON’T HAVE TO DO IT ALONE!
Are you ready to embrace change and transform your relationships?
Let me be your guide on this journey to healthier, more fulfilling connections. 
Whether you’re seeking to break free from old patterns or deepen your understanding of relational dynamics, I’m here to support you every step of the way. 
Embark on an empowering relationship adventure with a guide who’s been there, right by your side! 
With love and light,
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