Boundary Basics

As someone who has struggled with setting and maintaining healthy boundaries in the past, I know firsthand how challenging it can be. But I also know how incredibly empowering it feels when you start to really own your boundaries and stop putting everyone else’s needs before your own.

One thing I’ve noticed is that a lot of us have this misconception that setting boundaries means we’re being “mean” or “selfish, but the truth is, boundaries are an act of self-love.

Boundaries are about honoring your needs and respecting your own limits, which ultimately allows you to show up more fully in your relationships.

Think about it this way – when you pour from an empty cup, you end up with nothing left to give. Boundaries help you refill that cup, so you can pour with presence and intention, rather than depletion and resentment.:

I know it can be scary to start setting boundaries, especially with the people we care about the most. We worry that they’ll get upset or that it’ll damage the relationship. But the reality is, if someone cares about you, they’ll respect your boundaries. And if they don’t? Well, that speaks volumes about the health of that relationship.

Something that’s really helped me is remembering that boundaries aren’t about controlling others – they are about controlling our own experience. It’s not about telling someone “don’t do this,” it’s about saying “if you do this, I will do that.” It’s about taking responsibility for our own energy and well-being.

I want to invite you to start exploring your boundaries a bit. What are the things that you need to feel safe, respected, and fulfilled in your relationships? Where are you compromising your own needs to keep the peace?

Here are a few thought-provoking questions to reflect on and journal about

What are my non-negotiable boundaries? The things I absolutely will not compromise on?
Where am I people-pleasing or putting others' needs before my own?
What is the cost of this for me?
What would be a consequence I'm willing to enforce if someone violates a boundary I set?
Am I committed to following through?

Remember, boundaries are a journey, not a destination. It takes practice, patience, and self-compassion. But the more you honor your needs, the more you’ll be able to show up as your best self in all your relationships.

Five affirmations to help rewire those people-pleasing tendencies.

Say these affirmations to yourself as often as possible throughout the day for 30 days in a row, while tapping into what it feels like to be a seasoned and practiced boundary setter. Emotion is the key to manifestation, so go ahead and witness your own transformation happen!!

1. My boundaries are an act of self-love, not selfishness.

2. I have the right to say no without explanation or guilt.

3. I am responsible for my own energy and well-being.

4. I am not responsible for other people’s reactions to my boundaries.

5. I am fully capable of following through with enacting the natural consequences of not adhering to the boundaries I have put in place.

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